I have read way too many articles on relationships to come up with the idea of there being 4 stages in a relationship. A relationship when it comes to two people is always special be it for 1 year or 10 years. I believe that time or period of being in a relationship does not define the strength of the relationship or love. You could be with someone for 2 years and still not know the person but you could also be with someone for 2 months and bond greatly, what I am trying to say is that when you are with someone right, you will know it. All in all, here are the 4 stages that I have learned.
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1. Honeymoon Stage
2. The reality Stage
3. Acceptance Stage (Imperfectly Perfect)
4. Commitment Stage
5. Conclusion
NUMBER 1: THE HONEYMOON STAGE
You are living your dream. Your partner loves you unconditionally. You will meet more often go for some fancy dinner. You might be spending the late-night putting your head on his/her shoulder and looking at the moon. Romantic talks, sweet text messages, phone calls, sweet words, and more. You will feel like every love song is written for you. You will imagine you and your partner as the superstars of some fancy romantic movie. This is the starting phase of your relationship where everything is going great. Whenever you think of your partner, a smile comes to your face, your heart beats faster when you see them and you feel like the luckiest and happiest person alive. You have no fights or whatsoever, you always agree with each other and you always think of the person. This is like a fantastical romantic drama and you guys are the main characters. Everything is going smoothly until …….
NUMBER 2: THE REALITY STAGE
This is the stage where slowly but surely, everything becomes real. You start to notice annoying habits your partner might have which you did not realize at first, you start to disagree and have fights. The act is over, the reality is here. Your heart does beat fast but as fast as a while ago when you see them, you think less of them as work or studies keep you busy, you stop feeling like the luckiest or happiest person alive as you realize other things can make you happier like maybe a pay raise? This stage is what I call a ‘critical’ stage as this stage will come to define and set your relationship for the future. There will be smiles, laughter, tears but fret not as these are what makes a relationship real and strong. sometimes fight between couples are not bad as they somehow communicate through these fights and come out of it stronger. If you survive this stage then we gonna read the next stage below. But this is the stage where most of the relationship ends because when everything comes to reality, we may not like it or we were so obsessed with the behavior and fancy things which our partner pretended to have with them at the first stage.
Number 3: ACCEPTANCE STAGE (IMPERFECTLY PERFECT)
This stage is when you realize your other half is not as perfect as you thought. They have flaws and sometimes they can be annoying. But if you truly and really love them, you will come to embrace their flaws happily. You would realize that yes even though they are annoying sometimes or cry baby or over thinkers, you are ok with it because that is what you like about
them, that is what makes them cute and lovable. Its the fact that nobody is perfect but it’s the time when you see the perfection in their imperfection. You might come to realize that they might not have model faces or bodies, but you still love them because they still attract you. Hence, after this stage…….
NUMBER 4: THE COMMITMENT STAGE
There will be the commitment stage, and this is when serious talks about the future come, for instance; marriage. If you guys survive the above 3 stages, then marriage would be the perfect option. You have crossed all these stages to get where you are today. Staying with your partner through all the obstacles only proves how strong the relationship is. This is when a happy ending would come for a while because let’s be honest, there is no such thing as a happy ending but there is something called lasting and that is when your love is last enough to grow old together, sitting by the fireplace old as hell but happy as well.
Finally,
Now, these stages of love do not apply to all relationships out there, but this is just like a guide to know where your relationship stands and how you guys can move forward because if you love someone truly, you would be there for them and vice versa. And I know mine will survive all these stages to get to that time where we planned to marry.
Hope I was able to give you some idea about your relationship if you are into it or you might be thinking where we are then don’t forget to give your opinion below. 🙂
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